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Honesty is saying what we know or suspect to be real, even when we don’t like the consequences. It is also much more.


Because most deception is actually self deception, true honesty requires that we recognize our natural human penchant for fooling ourselves. In particular, honesty requires that we guard against self-serving biases: our tendency to seek confirmation for what we already believe while ignoring contradictory evidence; our tendency to put blame on others and take credit for ourselves; our tendency to think that what is good for us is good for the world and even to make the gods themselves in our own image.


Honesty is a lifetime process of catching ourselves in falsehood and, however reluctantly, turning away from it.

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It always seemed strange to me that the things we admire in men, kindness and generosity, openness, honesty, understanding and feeling are the concomitants of failure in our system. And those traits we detest, sharpness, greed, aquisitiveness, meanness, egotism and selfinterest are the traits of sucess. And while men admire the quality of the first, they love the produce of the second.

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Sometimes the only way you can take a really good look at yourself is through someone else's eyes.

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We must all beware the very real and understandable human tendency to ignore or subvert facts, and findings of science, that discomfort us for reasons of ideology, politics, religion, or personal taste.

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When helping the wounded, Honesty is secondary to Healing!

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What is freedom of expression? Without the freedom to offend, it ceases to exist.

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Friendship that insists upon agreement on all matters is not worth the name. Friendship to be real must ever sustain the weight of honest differences, however sharp they be. -

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The Godlight
Mahatma Gandhi
http://www.thegodlight.co.uk/gandhi.htm
Viewed on September 7, 2009
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Adversity is the first path to truth

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Just found it somewhere long ogo and forgotten
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The folly of mistaking a paradox for a discovery, a metaphor for a proof, a torrent of verbiage for a spring of capital truths, and oneself for an oracle, is inborn in us.

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The habit of employing self-deception to maintain one’s self esteem has often become so ingrained that the first step to developing accurate self-awareness is honest acknowledgment of the existence of hidden emotions, motives and tendencies in the mind without immediately suppressing them.

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Satipatthana, by Analayo
Published by Windhorse Publications , 2004
http://books.google.com/books?id=m8QdXyA-hF4C
Contribution #3286


It takes strong ears indeed to hear ourselves judged frankly, and because there are few who can endure criticism without being stung by it, those who venture to criticize us perform a remarkable act of friendship. For it is a healthy love that will risk wounding or offending in order to profer a benefit.

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If science is to carry on a meaningful dialogue with religion, it must work to establish a level playing field where both sides honestly address what we can and cannot know about ourselves and the world around us. We need to back away from perpetuating the all-knowing rational mind myth that makes real discussion impossible. At the same time, we need to acknowledge that the evidence for a visceral need for a sense of faith, purpose and meaning is as powerful as the evidence for evolution.

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On Being Certain
Page 196
Published by St. Martin's Press , New York , 2008
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We have not passed that subtle line between childhood and adulthood until we move from the passive voice to the active voice - that is, until we have stopped saying 'It got lost,' and say, 'I lost it.'

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In youth we feel richer for every new illusion; in maturer years, for every one we lose.

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Patriotism ruins history.

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...it is always advisable to perceive clearly our ignorance.

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I believe that unarmed truth and unconditional love will have the final word in reality. This is why right, temporarily defeated, is stronger than evil triumphant.

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[W]e all need friends with whom we can speak of our deepest concerns, and who do not fear to speak the truth in love to us.

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'I have done that,' says my memory. 'I cannot have done that' -- says my pride, and remains adamant. At last -- memory yields.

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The companions of God are, in this day, the lump that must leaven the peoples of the world. They must show forth such trustworthiness, such truthfulness and perseverance, such deeds and character that all mankind may profit by their example. Tell him, no one in this world can claim any relationship to Me except those who, in all their deeds and in their conduct, follow My example, in such wise that all the peoples of the earth would be powerless to prevent them from doing and saying that which is meet and seemly.

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Excellence in All Things
#3, #4
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It takes two seconds to tell the truth and it costs nothing. A lie takes time and it costs everything.

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Starbucks - The Way I See It #239
http://www.starbucks.com/retail/thewayiseeit_default.asp?act=0&first=14
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[The] issues are never simple. One thing I’m proud of is that very rarely will you hear me simplify the issues.

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MSNBC interview, Sep 25, 2006
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People grow through experience if they meet life honestly and courageously. This is how character is built.

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I have made up my mind that if there is a God, he will be merciful to the merciful. Upon that rock I stand. That he will not torture the forgiving. Upon that rock I stand. That every man should be true to himself, and that there is no world, no star in which honesty is a crime. Upon that rock I stand.

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What's God Got to Do with It?
by ed. Tim Page
Page 133 ("How to Be Saved" 1880)
Published by Steerforth Press , Hanover, NH , 2005
http://www.amazon.com/Whats-God-Got-Ingersoll-Separation/dp/1586420968/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1224970457&sr=8-1
Contribution #2294


When one of your children tells a lie, be honest with him; tell him that you have told hundreds of them yourself. Tell him it is not the best way; that you have tried it. Tell him as the man did in Maine when his boy left home: "John, honesty is the best policy; I have tried both."

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What's God Got To Do With It?
by Tim Page
Page 53 from The Liberty of Man, Woman and Child)
Published by Steerforth Press , Hanover, NH , 2005
http://www.amazon.com/Whats-God-Got-Ingersoll-Separation/dp/1586420968/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1224970457&sr=8-1
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Truthfulness is the foundation of all the virtues . . . When this holy attribute is established in man, all the divine qualities will also become realized.

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Virtues Reflection Cards
http://www.virtuesproject.com
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The best mirror is an old friend.

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Virtues Reflection Cards
http://www.virtuesproject.com
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Honesty is the best policy. If I lose mine honor, I lose myself.

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I Pray Heaven to bestow the best of blessing on this house, and on ALL that shall hereafter inhabit it. May none but honest and wise men ever rule under this roof! --Speaking of the White House in a letter to Abigail, November 1800.

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Republics are created by the virtue, public spirit, and intelligence of the citizens. They fall, when the wise are banished from the public councils, because they dare to be honest, and the profligate are rewarded, because they flatter the people, in order to betray them.

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The whole art of government consists in the art of being honest.

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If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything.

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Whatever men expect, they soon come to think they have a right to; the sense of disappointment can, with very little skill on our part, be turned into a sense of injury. (senior devil speaking)

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The Screwtape Letters
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Contribution #1922


Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.

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Bible
Phillipians 4:8
Published by KJV
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Contribution #1914


Bullshit is unavoidable when circumstances require someone to talk without knowing what he is talking about. Thus, the production of bullshit is stimulated whenever a person's obligations or opportunities to speak about some topic exceed his knowledge of the facts that are relevant to that topic. This discrepancy is common in public life, where people are frequently impelled--whether by their own propensities or by the demands of others -- to speak extensively about matters of which they are to some degree ignorant.

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On Bullshit
Page 62-63
Published by Princeton University Press , Princeton, NJ, USA , 2005
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The fact about himself that the liar hides is that he is attempting to lead us away from a correct apprehension of reality; we are not to know that he wants us to believe something he supposes to be false. The fact about himself that the bullshitter hides, on the other hand, is that the truth-values of his statements are of no central interest to him . . . He does not care whether the things he says describe reality correctly. He just picks them out, or makes them up, to suit his purpose.

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On Bullshit
Page 55-56
Published by Princeton University Press , Princeton, New Jersy, USA , 2005
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In times of universal deceit, truth-telling becomes a revolutionary act.

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It is astonishing what force, purity, and wisdom it requires for a human being to keep clear of falsehoods.

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We are like sculptors, constantly carving out of others the image we long for, need, love or desire, often against reality, against their benefit, and always, in the end, a disappointment, because it does not fit them.

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Therefore, having put away falsehood, let each one of you speak the truth with his neighbor, for we are all of the same body.

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Bible
Ephesians 4:25
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It may be necessary temporarily to accept a lesser evil, but one must never label a necessary evil as good.

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The moment we begin to fear the opinions of others and hesitate to tell the truth that is in us, and from motives of policy are silent when we should speak, the divine floods of light and life no longer flow into our souls.

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Lying is done with words and also with silence.

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The books that the world calls immoral are the books that show the world it's own shame.

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Practice meditation sincerely and you will realize His infinite grace.  God wants sincerity, truthfulness and love.  Outward verbal effusions do not touch Him. 

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Find and follow the good path and be ruled by compassion. For if the various ways are examined, compassion will prove the means to liberation. 

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Tirukkural
http://wiki.seedsofcompassion.org
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Three things cannot be long hidden: the sun, the moon, and the truth.

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Buddha
http://thinkexist.com/quotation/three_things_cannot_be_long_hidden-the_sun-the/199786.html
Viewed on April 21, 2008
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A lie has speed, but truth has endurance.

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Edgar J. Mohn
http://www.answers.com/topic/stamina
Viewed on April 21, 2008
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If all hearts were open and all desires known -- as they would be if people showed their souls -- how many gapings, sighings, clenched fists, knotted brows, broad grins, and red eyes should we see in the market-place!

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Thomas Hardy
http://en.proverbia.net/citastema.asp?tematica=155
Viewed on April 16, 2008
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A ''No'' uttered from deepest conviction is better and greater than a ''Yes'' merely uttered to please, or what is worse, to avoid trouble.

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Gandhi Mahatma
http://en.proverbia.net/citastema.asp?tematica=155
Viewed on April 16, 2008
Contribution #854


You will always have to live with yourself, and it is to your best interest to see that you have good company -- a clean, pure, straight, honest, upright, generous, magnanimous companion.

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Orison Swett Marden
Viewed on April 14, 2008
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The great consolation in life is to say what one thinks.

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Voltaire
Viewed on April 14, 2008
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Love is an act of endless forgiveness, a tender look which becomes a habit.

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Peter Usinov
Viewed on April 14, 2008
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Honest hearts produce honest actions.

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Brigham Young
Viewed on April 14, 2008
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It is man that makes truth great, not truth that makes man great.

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Confucius
Viewed on April 11, 2008
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It is always well to accept your own shortcomings with candor but to regard those of your friends with polite incredulity.

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Russell Lynes
Viewed on April 7, 2008
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