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Friendliness is being open toward other people, taking the risk of inviting them into relationship with you. It means being curious, warm and inviting toward people you don't know well and letting yourself be vulnerable and interdependent with people you do.


When we are friendly, our starting assumption is that others are well-intentioned and open to reciprocity, and that we can learn from them. This does not mean we are naively oblivious to the fact that generous assumptions may be wrong--and definitely will be at times. Rather, friendliness means that in the absence of evidence to the contrary we assume the best, and even when evidence is mixed we tend to give people the benefit of the doubt. Because our expectations are often self-fulfilling, friendliness maximizes the richness of our relationships.

Friendliness


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Relationships are the oxygen of the psyche.

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Spoken at Legacy of Wisdom conference, April 17, 2011
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It is not so much our friends' help that helps us as the confident knowledge that they will help us.

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Today, give yourself permission to be outrageously kind, irrationally warm, improbably generous. I promise it will be a blast.

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The greatest gift of life is friendship, and I have received it.

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In human relations one should penetrate to the core of loneliness in each person and speak to that.

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The Autobiography of Bertrand Russell
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Having no religion does not mean having no religious beliefs, rather it means that you choose not to pick a specific religious sect to exclusively identify with.” ~ atypican

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www.freepressbible.net
atypican
http://articles.freepressbible.net/19HpibW0AniWNAVzNN8oPXl0Tr4EMOJIjzNaBlQz6z9U
Viewed on February 1, 2012
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Life is never been easy. Otherwise, you will never treasure for what you have.

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It takes hundred of years sitting together in the same boat. It takes thousand of years sharing the same bed with. It calls : the predestined affinity.

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All beings are not only the parents in the past. They will become the Buddha in the future. If you free their lives, you are Buddha.

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I prefer by far the warmth and softness to mere brilliancy and coldness. Some people remind me of sharp dazzling diamonds. Valuable but lifeless and loveless. Others, of the simplest field flowers, with hearts full of dew and with all the tints of celestial beauty reflected in their modest petals.

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The Early Diary of Anais Nin, Vol 2: 1920-1923
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If your neighbor falls ill and you feel the pain, if any of your known people is in trouble or misery and your heart aches, only then you have a human heart in the real sense.

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Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.

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When a man is wrapped up in himself he makes a pretty small package.

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When words fail....Music speaks.

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Found on a bumper sticker
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‎'Old friends pass away, new friends appear. It is just like the days. An old day passes, a new day arrives. The important thing is to make it meaningful: a meaningful friend - or a meaningful day.

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The Platinum Rule: Treat others in the way they like to be treated.

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Do unto others as they would have you do unto them.

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There is an almost sensual longing for communion with others who have a larger vision. The immense fulfillment of the friendships between those engaged in furthering the evolution of consciousness has a quality almost impossible to describe.

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It’s paradoxical that where people are most closely crowded, in the big coastal cities of the East and West, the loneliness is the greatest…The explanation is that the physical distance between people has nothing to do with loneliness. It’s psychic distance.

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My best friend is the one that brings out the best in me.

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Best quotes and poems
Henry Ford
"Frendship quotes and sayings"
http://www.best-quotes-poems.com/Friendship-Quotes.html
Viewed on March 22, 2011
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Don't walk in front of me, I may not follow ~ Don't walk behind me, I may not lead ~ Just walk beside me and be my friend.

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Best Quotes and Poems
Unknown
"Friendship quotes and sayings"
http://www.best-quotes-poems.com/Friendship-Quotes.html
Viewed on March 22, 2011
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When there are no spring blossoms to inspire, no summer flowers to smell, no autumn leaves to admire; then 'tis the season to appreciate yet another of His wonders. Man was a part of the garden, too.

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The author's personal musings.
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when you hug some one sincerely u share three things; warmth, smiles and love. when you reject a hug; you reject these things. tell me what else brings greater joy than these,to beloved, the warmth from a dear one and a welcoming or friendly smile?

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common sense
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Truth springs from an argument among friends.

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Rationally Speaking
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Friendship is not something that you learn in school. But if you haven’t learned the meaning of friendship, then you really haven’t learned anything.

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We build too many walls and not enough bridges.

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We build too many walls and not enough bridges.

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O FRIEND! In the garden of thy heart plant naught but the rose of love, and from the nightingale of affection and desire loosen not thy hold. Treasure the companionship of the righteous and eschew all fellowship with the ungodly.

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Baha'i Writings
The Hidden Words of Baha'u'llah pg 52
Published by US Baha'i Publishing Trust
Published in 1985
http://reference.bahai.org/en/t/b/HW/hw-76.html
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Sometimes you win the battle by simply choosing not to fight it.

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From the manuscript Impatiently Seeking Patience...
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I've learned from this life of mine that one cannot be a good friend to me until one ceases to be his own worst enemy.

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From the manuscript Impatiently Seeking Patience...
http://www.latonyatarell.com
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How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard.

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Winnie The Pooh
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For every person sitting, I will stand for every elder standing.

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Own Source.
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Our listening creates a sanctuary for the homeless parts within another person.

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The first thing you must do is forget that I’m Black. Second, you must never forget that I’m Black.

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"For The White Person Who Wants to Know How To Be My Friend," in "Making Face, Making Soul/Haciendo Caras: Creative and Critical Perspectives by Feminists of Color"
by Edited by Gloria Anzaldua
Page 297
Published by Aunt Lute Foundation Books , San Francisco , 1995
http://www.amazon.com/Making-Face-Soul-Haciendo-Caras/dp/1879960109/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1264714257&sr=8-1
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Sometimes the only way you can take a really good look at yourself is through someone else's eyes.

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The good neighbor looks beyond the external accidents and discerns those inner qualities that make all men human and, therefore, brothers. Martin Luther King Jr., 'Strength to Love,' 1963

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The Strength Of Love
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Researchers studied 34 students at the University of Virginia, taking them to the base of a steep hill and fitting them with a weighted backpack. They were then asked to estimate the steepness of the hill. Some participants stood next to friends during the exercise, while others were alone. The students who stood with friends gave lower estimates of the steepness of the hill. And the longer the friends had known each other, the less steep the hill appeared.

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NY Times "What Are Friends For? A Longer Life" http://
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What sunshine is to flowers, smiles are to humanity. These are but trifles, to be sure; but, scattered along life's pathway, the good they do is inconceivable.

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If we don't believe in freedom of expression for people we despise, we don't believe in it at all.

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The most basic and powerful way to connect to another person is to listen. Just listen. Perhaps the most important thing we ever give each other is our attention.... A loving silence often has far more power to heal and to connect than the most well-intentioned words.

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Friendship that insists upon agreement on all matters is not worth the name. Friendship to be real must ever sustain the weight of honest differences, however sharp they be. -

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The Godlight
Mahatma Gandhi
http://www.thegodlight.co.uk/gandhi.htm
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In our relationships we need to uphold that aspect of the person which is the real person and the soul beyond their own self-doubt.

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Alchemical Wisdom
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Whenever you possibly can, do good to those who need it.

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Good News Bible
Page Proverbs 3:27
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Beyond any technique, relationships are what heal.

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Coyote Healing
Page 219
Published by Bear and Company , U.S.A. , March 2003
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A man's friendships are one of the best measures of his worth.

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The person who tries to live alone will not succeed as a human being. His heart withers if it does not answer another heart. His mind shrinks away if he hears only the echoes of his own thoughts and finds no other inspiration.

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Friendship marks a life even more deeply than love. Love risks degenerating into obsession, friendship is never anything but sharing.

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I don't like that man. I must get to know him better.

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I always try to believe the best of everybody -- it saves so much trouble.

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A smile costs nothing but gives much.  It enriches those who receive without making poorer those who give.  It takes but a moment, but the memory of it sometimes lasts forever.  None is so rich or mighty that he cannot get along without it and none is so poor that he cannot be made rich by it.  Yet a smile cannot be bought, begged, borrowed, or stolen, for it is something that is of no value to anyone until it is given away.  Some people are too tired to give you a smile.  Give them one of yours, as none needs a smile so much as he who has no more to give.

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Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.

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Leo Buscaglia
http://www.quotations.about.com
Viewed on May 1, 2008
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A good motto is: Use friendliness but do not use your friends.

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Frank Hall Crane
http://www.brainyquote.com/words/fr/friendliness167069.html
Viewed on April 22, 2008
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He who sows courtesy reaps friendship, and he who plants kindness gathers love.

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St. Basil
http://www.answers.com/topic/basil-st
Viewed on April 18, 2008
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The best thing to give to your enemy is forgiveness; to an opponent, tolerance; to a friend, your heart; to your child, a good example; to a father, deference; to your mother, conduct that will make her proud of you; to yourself, respect; to all men, charity.

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Arthur James Balfour, Conservative politician and statesman, 25 July 1848 – 19 March 1930
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To know someone here or there with whom you can feel there is understanding in spite of distances or thoughts unexpressed - that can make of this earth a garden.

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It is always well to accept your own shortcomings with candor but to regard those of your friends with polite incredulity.

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Russell Lynes
Viewed on April 7, 2008
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Friendship improves happiness, and abates misery, by doubling our joys, and dividing our grief.

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Joseph Addison
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We do not so much need the help of our friends as the confidence of their help in need.

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Epicurus
Viewed on April 7, 2008
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